Unless you’re not a fan of colorful NSFW material, I is simply assume you’ve witnessed the most recent viral video of men expending fruits to show how to give maidens an orgasm.
Now, if there is one thing I gathered from this video( other than enough distressing nightmares to last a gal a lifetime ), it’s the fact that people apparently have no f* cking plan how to navigatea vagina.
While the central focus of this video is on fingering( but who actually knows, because I wasted three-quarters of it hurling ), I’m not about to go back to kindergarten and deal the basics of finger banging.
Watching this shocking parade of male incompetence stimulated me to have a PTSD flashback to all the times I’ve gotten ugly head.
I shudder to recall a time when a guy was going down on me and decided to give me an actual nibble. Like, buddy, it’s a vagina , not corn on the cob. Chill the f* ck out.
I had a differentguy wildly impaled me with his nubby digits with such personnel, you would have visualized my vagina were made from chainmail.
But how are you supposed to say anything when homeboy suctions at dining pussy? The closest we get to male vaginal education is a f* cking video where a bunch of losers thumb blast tropical return! Come
on . It’s 2015!
Look, I get it, okay? Were already a little ashamed to want cunnilingus( and to ask for it, goddammit) in the first place, so it’s a whole other challenge to want to improve your man’s skills. What if you humiliate the sh* t out of him, and your clit never determines a tongue again? GASP!
But, madams. Females, noblewomen, dames. I am here for you. I hear your plea, and I chose what we needed was some good old-fashioned information.
So I met some bonafide copulation experts to return us the much-needed scrawny on improving your man’s oral sex game.
Not all maids are the same, and neither are our lady bits.
One of the common mistakes people see is considering all vaginas are the same. But this is not the case. Each one is like a snowflake: beautiful, complicated and exquisitely unique.
The key is LISTENING to what your spouse wants, fellas.
“Guys, what works for your last partner isn’t necessarily going to work on the brand-new one. Take a written notice of her oral and nonverbal clues, remarks Amy Levine, sexuality coach and founder of
Ignite Your Pleasure.
You need to be open-minded to feedback if you expect to deliver the large-scale O. “If your partner tells you to change it up, take it as a method to oblige copulation even better, rather than disapproval, adds Lorrae Bradbury, sexpert and founder of the sex-positive brand
Slutty Girl Problems.
Ladies, tell your collaborator what appears good. Make him or her are well aware that the cliques he’s doing with his tongue works for you by MOANING and sh* t.
And don’t be too critical if something isnt labor. Considering this is a sensitive topic( and domain, HOLLA !), try persisting to messages of encouragement rather than being straight-up rude.
As Levine tells ED 😛 TAGEND
Give positive reinforcement when he’s doing something well. Tell him what feels excellent for you and what you want, rather than harping on what he needs to improve.
Bradbury recommends bringing up theseareas for improvementwhile also acknowledgingthe things you like about your sex life 😛 TAGEND
You can work this into a speech about what the hell are you love about your fornication living and what you want to try in the future.
As we all know,
men have the egos of 14-year-old girls. As much as cold, hard integrity can be a refreshing and charming situation, it’s likely good to deter that sh* t uplifting if you expect to get buddy boy’s head down south again. Improving the oral game takes fortitude, understanding and practice.
Men, watching porn for an indecent quantity of day is not going to offer you the proper tools on how to give proper head.Bradbury tells Elite Daily 😛 TAGEND
We often assume that sexual skills should come naturally, so we can feel humiliated to seek out gratuities, ask our partners for feedback or talking here what we like.
As we’ve previously discussed, you need to get your head out of your ass and expect her what she requires. And if she isn’t sure, Levine says to listen to her bodily and vocal cues.
Something to keep in mind: “Don’t dart your tongue like a lizard. Kiss, caress and suck with your lips.”
In other terms, don’t act like you’re having a convulsion. Just focus on one area.
Also, while all women are different( REMEMBER, WE ARE BEAUTIFUL SNOWFLAKES !), Levine too advocates this one for the fellas 😛 TAGEND
He can also suck her clitoris and position his paw inside — when she’s evoked and her g-spot makes an appearance, g-spot stimulation can be an added bonus.
If you’re feeling fancy, don’t hold back.
If you want to change it up and maintain oral sex fascinating and exciting, go for it.
“We often imagine oral sex is all about the tongue, but you can use your lips, teeth and digits to give pleasure, too! ” Bradbury tells Elite Daily.
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Mix events up by stimulating her vulva, labia, vaginal opening and urethra. You can also use your digits to provoke other areas, like her breasts, hips, as, g-spot, vaginal walls or anus.
But remember to listen! Do what she craves and listen to what is working.
If it works for you and your collaborator, and you’re safe about it, go for it!
When in doubt, THE CLITORIS IS YOUR SAVIOR.
Boys, you don’t need to perform some black magic on the vagina to lock an orgasm. It’s not the mechanical woodchopper that Belle’s dad takes to the exhibition in “Beauty and The Beast.” There isn’t any horrendous need to do 85 circumstances at once while your look is between our legs, capeesh?
According to Bradbury 😛 TAGEND
The# 1 gratification center during oral sex is the clitoris because it is so feelings. Investigate different flows, like going in curves, zig-zags, up and down, different rates, pushes and intensities.
If it is working, KEEP DOING IT. Consistency is a surefire course to get her off.
“Whatever you do, don’t stop until she tells you to, one tried-and-true cunnilingus connoisseur tells Elite Daily.
If you’re not sure what the hell is do, simply stick with Old faithful, okay?
“Better to be great at one technique, rather than be awkward at trying to do two simultaneously, ” Levine says.
We maidens are involved individuals, but if it ain’t transgressed, don’t fasten it. Now, go forth and prosper. Talk to each other, listen and have some fun.